June 21st, 2006
|07:10 am - Strange dream|
Something vaguely collegiate, but I got into a flirtation with the guy behind me at orientation. First he was contempuous and then, suddenly adoring later in the dream. A geek, of course. I was enthralled.
This preppy/super star type girl asked for me to be her roommate during the assembly, so, of course, I had to go meet her. We got into a dscussion of scifi and I demanded that she had to read Ender's Game before condeming the whole genre.
I called over to my geek buddy. "Hey! Ender's Game. Best scifi book ever written?" (Now with my waking mind, I'm not sure I believe this, although I do know what real life conversation this came from)
I picked people randomly out of the audience and they all agreed.
Then I shouted out to the auditorium, "Who's read Ender's Game" Hundreds of hands go up. Who didn't like it? They nearly all go down.
Then I ask the leader who I'd gotten into the fight described below with. "What do you think of Ender's Game.
Immediately she responded, "One of the best sci-fi books ever written."
There. You see? You should read it.
If she could actually read, about which I had my doubts.
And there was discussion of special rights for gays, which I don't much remember. I don't remember the actual issue, but I remember that they told me I was a homophobe, which amused me. I had my own soliloqy in response, (well, it is my dream!) I said, I'm not anti-gay. My best friend is a lesbian who's been in a committed relationship for five years and they plan, and I support them, to have two girls, one each. And then I went on to define the difference between protective rights and special classes and explain that no group should automatically have whaever priviledge was under discussion.
I have a lot of recapping to do on the subject of my life, but not this morning.
Homophobia isn't really an appropriate term in that case, for a lot of reasons. It's characterized by a fear of or disdain for gays and lesbians, and that's not what's going on here.
A lot of people feel that if they were to extend the same rights to gays and lesbians as heterosexual couples have, they'd be offering "special rights", and that doesn't necessarily mean that person has a dislike of or fear of homosexuals. There needs to be a new term.
"Bigot", surprisingly, halfway fits. A bigot is "One who is strongly partial to one's own group, religion, race, or politics and is intolerant of those who differ". Those who prefer not to allow same-sex couples to marry, share insurance, make medical decisions, serve in the military, adopt children, and so on are, in fact, partial to one group, but again are not automatically exhibiting a fear or hatred.
"Segregationist" is closer, as it denotes one who advocates or practices a policy of racial
segregation, alà the Nuremburg Laws
in Nazi Germany back in the 30's and 40's, and the American seperate but equal
" laws in the 50's and 60's. To be a better fit, the definition would have to be expanded to include sexual preference or orientation, and would pertain more to intangible items such as marriage, non-discriminatory employment, legal guardianship, automatic power of attorney, and the ability to be a legally-protected, recognized family than physical ones, such as drinking fountains, bus seats, barber shops, churches, and schools.
I frequently hear people say they don't want to see a same-sex couple kiss or hold hands in public because they don't want their children exposed to that and don't want to have to answer when the child asks "why is that girl is kissing that other girl?". To me, the answer to that question is simple: "She's kissing her because she loves her".
I'm not saying I want to see public groping, tongues lapping other tongues, and wild abandon on the streets. I don't want to see it from anyone
though, same-sex or opposite-sex. I just have a hard time figuring out why there should be one set of rules, expectations, and rights for one group of people, and another set of rules, expectations, and rights for another.
I'm for equal rights, and for homosexual marriage, even using that word, and for the right to inherit, equal custody for both parents in the event of divorce, right to rent an apartment without discrimination, and generally treating all people as if they were, well, people, without regard for the gender they choose to boff.
In the dream, the issue was something else. Something I felt no one had an automatic right too. Since it was a collegiate setting, I wondered (as I've been trying to remember) if it was an automatic admissions policy or some type of roommate selection thing, although neither of those things sound right. It was definitely a special right being afforded solely on the basis of gender preference and it didn't make any sense to me. I know it wasn't scholarships, might have been financial aid although that doesn't sound right either.
Yeah true "special rights" are ridiculous.
It's kind of like the carte blanche visiting diplomats receive while here. Parking meters? What parking meters? Handicapped spot? Looks good to me!