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June 24th, 2008

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02:16 pm - That's romantic?
Alot of romances end in a sort of a gift of magi way, where both parties realize they're willing to give up X to make the relationship work. Inevitably, because both partners were willing to give up X for the relationship, neither feels disenfranchised by the fact that only one of them ultimately gave up X, which she (it's nearly always she) didn't really need anyway.

In the romance I'm finishing up now, which I haven't quite finished yet, but I've gotten far enough to see how this is going, she is a partner in a PR firm in NY. She has worked very hard since she got there. He owns an architecture firm in Chicago and has a lodge that he's painstakingly restoring in the place where their families have summered for years.

She is giving up her job and moving to Chicago. Oh, they dress it up. She's burnt out. She's having panic attacks. She realizes that the work isn't meaningful because after all the world won't end if the public doesn't know what type of spice a restaurant uses on their french fries. Oh, she debates whether it's worth throwing it all over for a man, but it's TRU LUV!!!!! Of course it's worth it.

Sorry, I don't buy it. I believe that people can be disgusted by their jobs and make the decision to change careers, locations. I get that people don't necessarily want to work. But they aren't people who rise to level of a partner in a highly competitive environment. You can't have it both ways. Either she's driven and successful or she's passing time until the right thing comes along. But after all the investment, time, and energy, she's invested into the company, it's hard to believe that she's just quit. In this age of the internet, she should be able to work anywhere. She's a partner. She could have pitched a Chicago expansion. She could have taken more foreign accounts and telecommute rather than handling strictly local accounts (who might want to see her in the office regularly). No, instead she has to QUIT HER JOB and haul off to Chicago.

Bite me, stupid romance writer.

The 12 Dancing Princesses gal has another fairy tale erotica out and it's lovely. I'll try to remember to bring it to the next book club.

Edit again:
Oh there it is. The "if you hadn't given up everything for you, I'd have moved to NY."
"Don't do that!" she says, "This is where we belong!" (as they bob around in the freezing water skinny dipping. Good plan.)

So very not romantic! Give up everything you thought you wanted before you realized you only wanted MEEEEEEEEE!!!!!!!
I am thoroughly disgusted. I should write the author and let her know.
Current Mood: annoyedannoyed
Current Music: Paula Abdul "Cold Hearted Snake"

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Date:June 24th, 2008 06:23 pm (UTC)
She could have found a cushy job with some company's internal PR operations, much like many attorneys or accountants do when they become exhausted with firm life.

She could have started her own business.

I'm with you on this one...but then, that's part of why I never read romance novels anyhow. The female lead almost always ends up throwing away everything for the guy (and in some cases, that includes her common sense and dignity). I'd rather just have some good, solid erotica and keep my plots elsewhere.
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Date:June 24th, 2008 08:14 pm (UTC)
She may post end of book. I assume she would. But the idea that this driven type A achiever would just drop all the planning and organization she's used for years because LUV fulfills her and makes her not need any of that boring crap anymore is ridiculous. A person doesn't change that much, not in a healthy relationship.
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Date:June 25th, 2008 02:11 am (UTC)
Bear in mind the typical audience of these books. I think the people it's designed to appeal to aren't the ones who are much like the "before" picture; they're the ones who may be a lot like the "after" picture and want to be reassured that that's a good way to be.
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Date:June 25th, 2008 02:19 pm (UTC)
I'm not disagreeing, but I thought part of the appeal of the modern driven business woman was to convince all the overacheiving career-oriented types that romance still has a place in their lives, even though they think they don't have time for romance. This would not have that affect.

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